Finally, a space where dads can be real

Pattr The App for Dads.

Connect with other dads, ask questions without judgment, and get real support from guys who understand what you're going through.

Join 2,000+ dads already on the waitlist

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Why Dads Need This

Fatherhood can be isolating. You're not alone in feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, or just needing someone who gets it.

73%

of new dads feel unprepared

68%

struggle with work-life balance

1 in 4

dads experience depression

The challenges are real

Feeling like you don't know what you're doing

No one to ask the "stupid" questions

Losing your identity in fatherhood

Pressure to be the "perfect dad"

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"I felt so alone as a new dad. My partner had mom groups, but where were the dad groups? I needed other guys who understood the pressure and uncertainty."

Mike, Dad of 2

How It Works

Three simple steps to connect with a community that gets it

1

Join & Verify

Sign up and verify you're a dad. We keep the community authentic and safe.

2

Find Your Tribe

Join groups based on your interests, kids' ages, or situations you're facing.

3

Connect & Support

Ask questions, share experiences, and build real friendships with other dads.

Features Built for Real Dads

Every feature is designed around what dads actually need - authentic connection, honest support, and zero judgment.

Dad-Only Community

Verified dads only. A safe space where you can be real about the struggles, wins, and everything in between.

  • Identity verification required
  • Moderated for safety

Anonymous Support

Ask the questions you're afraid to ask. Share what you're really going through. All with complete anonymity when you need it.

  • Post anonymously or with your name
  • No judgment, just support

Dad Groups

Join groups by interests, kids' ages, or situations. From "New Dads" to "Single Dads" to "Work-From-Home Dads".

Real Conversations

Chat one-on-one or in groups. Build genuine friendships with dads who understand your journey.

Ask Anything

No question is too small or embarrassing. Get real answers from dads who've been there.

Peer Support

No experts or professionals - just honest, relatable support from guys living the dad life too.

What Dads Are Saying

Real feedback from beta testers who found their tribe on Pattr

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Jake

Dad of 3

"Finally found a place where I can ask the embarrassing questions without judgment. The anonymous posting feature is a game-changer."

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Rob

New Dad

"As a first-time dad, I was drowning in advice from everyone. Here, I get real talk from guys who actually understand what I'm going through."

D

David

Single Dad

"The single dad group has been incredible. Found guys in similar situations who became real friends, not just online connections."

Launching soon for Android and iOS

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Built with Trust & Safety First

We understand the importance of creating a safe space for dads to be vulnerable and real

Dad Verification

All members verify they're dads to maintain authenticity and community trust.

Privacy Protected

Your personal information stays private. Share only what you're comfortable with.

Community Moderation

Active moderation by fellow dads ensures respectful, supportive conversations.

Mental Health Support

Resources and support for dads struggling with mental health challenges.

Our Community Guidelines

✅ We encourage:

  • • Honest sharing about dad struggles
  • • Supporting fellow dads without judgment
  • • Asking questions, no matter how basic
  • • Celebrating wins, big and small

❌ We don't allow:

  • • Judgment or shaming other dads
  • • Sharing personal information of others
  • • Promotional content or spam
  • • Anything that makes dads feel unsafe

Frequently Asked Questions

Everything you need to know about joining the Pattr community

How can I join the Beta?
Add your email to the waitlist below and I'll shoot you an email as soon as we're open to Beta testing!
Can I submit a feature request or share an idea for Pattr?
Absolutely. If you're already in the app then make a post in 'Pattr Feedback' group. Or, drop me an email at [email protected]
Is Pattr free?
During the Beta testing, yes. I will be restricting features in the future and adding paid subscriptions to cover server costs as well as to try and earn money to support my family. Beta testers will be entitled to a free premium account or a heavily discounted rate - still figuring things out!
How big is the team behind Pattr?
Just me, Cal, a dad like you. I've built Pattr in the small pockets of free time I manage to find here and there. None possible without my amazing wife of course, so you can include her as part of the team too.
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Join the Pattr Beta

Be among the first dads to experience a community built just for you. Get early access and help shape the future of Pattr.

Free beta access (no payment required)
Direct input on new features
Lifetime premium perks

Join 2,000+ dads already on the waitlist. No spam, just updates.

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